I opened my email this morning to see an email from Hay House with the subject line "How the Power of No can Save Your Life." The very next email right below it was from Wayne Dyer and it's subject line started with "Say Yes." I think I laughed aloud at the contradictions! So, which is it? I know there isn't a rule book on when to yes and what to say no to (or at least I've never found it), but I was pretty certain before I opened either email that the answer comes down to are you tuned in and willing to listen to your intuition?
The Hay House email turned out to be a promotion for a new book called The Power of No. The email described how the authors had used this "power" to attain what they were seeking in life. Here's the part that seemed most relevant to me:
"Determining when to say No—wondering about it, debating it, pondering it—leads you to a deeper understanding of who you are, of what is good for you and your life and for the people around you. It ultimately leads you to situations where you can say Yes to the abundance that was always meant for you.
After all, despite the title of this book, the ultimate goal is to say Yes—to bring a blissful Yes into your life, one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love."
So maybe the two emails were not contradictory, after all!
Wayne Dyer's words this morning were about saying yes to your passions. He wrote:
"Consider a new alternative for what makes you happy, one that soars beyond the superficial demands of the ego. The only thing that you need for this state of joy is something to be passionate about. Something that speaks only to you…that gets you tingling inside with excitement…that will not go away…that radiates within you…that sends you into a frenzy of good feeling because it makes you feel purposeful and connected to your Source of being. It doesn’t matter what it is. The only requirement is that you feel intensely about it and are willing to act with enthusiasm, awakening the sleeping God within you."
I believe most of us know when we want to yes or no to something but we tell our gut feeling to step aside so we can "think" it through. Your inner voice is not going to lie to you. How many times have you known the answer, changed your answer and then regretted it saying I knew I should have listened to my intuition? That's how I ended up adopting Hoyt! I heard my inner voice saying not the right dog. I even voiced that out loud. But my ears heard the members of my family saying give him a chance and he's so cute. Taking him back after forty some days was depressing and painful; I would not have felt that had I listened to my voice and stayed firm.
Remember, there is only so much change we can control. Consider what you are willing to live with and/or without. Run after your passions as if trying to outrun the wind. Get swept away by the yes's in your life and be grateful for the strength of your no's.
It was such a voracious storm last night. But, this morning, was calm and still. I walked outside so early I was the only person out there. I heard the birds; they were chirping yes it's a great day. And the rabbit on the sidewalk sized me up but said yes I could pass by. And the chipmunk sitting in my garage entrance when I came back said happily yes, I will move! It's a yes day- can you feel it?
E.E. Cummings wrote, "I thank you God for this most amazing day, for the leaping greenly spirits of trees, and for the blue dream of sky and for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes."