Tara Sophia Mohr sent out a blog recently about how scared she was to give birth. She wrote she was scared before she got pregnant and still scared after she became pregnant. She decided to go to a prenatal yoga class where the teacher asked her if she was having her first baby to which Tara replied yes. Quoting from the blog, the teacher responded:
“I can’t believe that,” she said. “It just seems like you’ve done this a thousand times before,” she said.
I was immediately blushing, and on cloud nine.
And then I had the thought, “You can act as if that’s true.” And suddenly, then and there, I decided I had done labor a thousand times before. And the minute I thought that, I found a part of myself who had done it a thousand times before. It was like she raised her hand and said, “Here I am.”
I really loved this. Awhile ago, I was telling someone, we will call her skeptic to keep her anonymity, to keep saying what you want to occur over and over in your mind and it will be what you attract to your life. She scoffed, that's ridiculous! Why would I say something like I am happy if I know I am not? The answer is simply because the mind believes what you tell it.
Tara writes, "Act as if. Most of the time in life, we are in the process of becoming. We want to become more brave, or more forgiving, or more grateful or more confident or whatever it is. Instead of waiting to be that, we can simply try on the thought that we are that, and then act as if it were true. “I’ve done labor a thousand times” or “I’m totally qualified for this role” or “My artwork has an adoring fan base.” It’s not about being delusional, it’s about changing your behavior, upping your game, by giving yourself a new frame within which to operate." Tara Sophia Mohr
I love where she says it is not about being delusional; it is not! It is about maybe considering you are all the things you think you only could be. Here's an example: if I have been telling myself for years that my thighs are fat (which we women are really good at thinking!), I am going to believe it. If I switch that thought to train my mind that my thighs look fabulous, I will eventually believe it and move on!!! And don't give me the argument that you may grow to believe your thighs are fabulous but everyone else will still be thinking they are fat.....Sonia Choquette says if you are worried about what other people think, mind your own business. And, seriously, if that is all someone else has to think about, they need to do some revaluating of their thoughts as well.
So, in class today, we drew Oracle cards from two different decks. This is fun because it always proves that the Universe will help you choose the card you are supposed to have. The last time I had students draw two cards, we were all amazed how the cards (from 2 different decks) relayed the same message. So let's say you drew a compassion card and you are feeling anything but compassionate. Create a new mantra! I am compassionate. I am compassionate. And allow yourself to be.
Act as if, Tara wrote. She said she immediately connected with the person inside of her who had given birth thousands of times before. Who says we disconnect from past life experiences? She probably has and that energy came to her when she needed it. Act as if you are comfortable in a room full of strangers. Act as if you are sexy, confident, responsible, powerful... even if you don't believe it right away, I am betting others will. They will feel your energy shift.
Norman Vincent Peale: “If you want a quality, act as if you already have it. If you want to be courageous, act as if you were - and as you act and persevere in acting, so you tend to become.”