“Reyes. Alexander. Farrow," I said.
Seconds after I spoke his name, Reyes walked into his bedroom, and I looked across the open space directly from my room into his.
He waited for me to continue.
"I feel like there's something missing from my bedroom."
A dimple appeared at the corner of his mouth. "You don't say."
"Any idea what that might be?"
He glanced around my room as well, then shrugged. "I can't imagine."
"Oh, wait," I said, stepping from my room into his, "wasn't there something here? Like, I don't know, a wall or something?"
He looked up. "You could be right. I do seem to remember a barrier of some kind here."
"Yep," I said, stepping closer, "I definitely remember a partition separating our apartments." When his only response was a mischievous tilt of his full mouth, I asked, "Where did you put my wall?"
He crossed his arms over his chest and leaned against his doorframe. "What makes you think I took it?"
"It was there this morning."
"And that means I took it? Maybe you just misplaced it. Where exactly did you see it last?"
I pressed my lips together. "You tore down my wall."
The smile he wore could've charmed the panties off a nun. Completely unrepentant, he admitted, "I tore down your wall.”
― Darynda Jones, Sixth Grave on the Edge
When we put up walls it is very stifling for our energy. Imagine boxing in your heart chakra so it doesn't have to feel again or your throat chakra so you can partition off communication.
Trump wants to build walls but he wants someone else to pay for them. When we put up walls, we are the ones who pay.
I came across two quotes about wall building; thank goodness they are both from unknown authors because I would be sure never to quote those writers again. They read:
"Sometimes putting up walls isn't a bad thing. Not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down." Unknown
"Suddenly this is all too hard, I am tired of putting up walls I want someone with the strength and the honesty to break them down." Unknown
Seriously? The one who comes along with strength and honesty is supposed to be you. And you are supposed to be the one who cares the most about taking your walls down...you put them up!!! These quotes merely offer excuses in a way that sounds authentic and official because they are "quotes".
Why do we put these walls up in the first place? I think the main reason is as a defense mechanism...we think this will protect us. But in even digesting that statement, it infers we have an ounce of control over other people. Control is illusory and if you are a self-identifying control addict, I am guessing your third chakra is expressing imbalances in a way you have not noticed, because you are too busy trying to control everything!
Walls eventually crumble. And when defense mechanism walls fall to pieces, we begin to feel and become aware of all those emotions we have been blocking out. Sand castles are harder to put up than take down; emotional walls work in the opposite way. And you, only you, can elicit the strength needed to remove them. Even in the book excerpt above, the man was persistent in sticking around and tearing down the "bedroom wall" but it was the woman, herself, the wall-builder, who had to let go and be okay with that.